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The North Providence Breeze 03-31-2021

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14 ENTERTAINMENT MARCH 31- APRIL 6, 2021 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION is demonstrated in the most paradoxical of ways. How, pray tell, is a child to under- stand that someone who is often angry at him genuinely loves him? It goes without saying, parents who microman- age misbehavior are overly vigilant. They can't bring themselves to let even the smallest infraction – the child makes a sour face at some instruction, for example – go by the boards. Every little thing is a big deal, worthy of agitation, a lecture, and even punishment. Their kids even- tually become immune to lecturing and being punished, which is a rather understand- able defense mechanism. Unfortunately, the parent interprets the child's immu- nity as evidence of disrespect and the need for more "dis- cipline." And around and around they go. Micromanagers are their own worst enemies. By being on the constant lookout for a problem, they activate a self- fulfilling prophecy and prob- lems are what they get. So, for example, the parent who is constantly on the lookout for disrespect gets precisely what she's looking for. The smallest nuance of body lan- guage becomes confirmation that her child doesn't respect her and needs more correc- tion. Eventually, a child who was just being a child – kids wear their emotions on their sleeves – becomes truly disre- spectful. By what magic does a person come to respect a person who is constantly on their back about something or other? A functional relationship between a superior and a subordinate requires more of the former than the latter. For one thing, it requires that the superior overlook what is nothing but "background noise" – quirks of personal- ity, for instance. Not sweating every little peccadillo is an important part of what being authentically superior is all about. I hate to bust a bubble or two out there in reader land, but parents do not deserve respect. If you want your child to "invest" in your authority, you must act like you know what you are doing. Micromanagers think they know what they're doing, but thinking is as far as it goes because what they're doing is counterpro- ductive, always. And their children know that. Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. PARENTING From Page 12 Heritage Ballet presents 'Cinderella' at the Stadium April 11 WOONSOCKET – Heritage Ballet will pres- ent the full length ballet "Cinderella" at the Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, on Sunday, April 11, at 2 p.m. Tickets are $40. This performance will be held in the Grand Hall. Safety is paramount. All state guidelines are being followed. The bar and con- cessions will be open during the show, but there will not be an intermission. Run time is approximate- ly two hours. To purchase tickets, visit www.stadiumtheatre.com . WaterFire Providence presents Robert Rohm sculpture exhibit PROVIDENCE – WaterFire Providence presents Down to Earth: Robert Rohm Sculpture, 1963-2013, at the WaterFire Arts Center, 475 Valley St. The exhibition spans 50 years of work by sculptor Robert Rohm. This exhibition will run through Sunday, April 25. The exhibit is free for all, donations encour- aged. The WaterFire Arts Center hours are: Wednesday-Sunday, 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Thursday, 10 a.m.-8 p.m. All visitors are required to self-screen before entering the WaterFire Arts Center and prac- tice safety rules: keeping a 6-foot distance from others and wearing a mask at all times. ACROSS 1. Now and __ 5. Israeli city __ Aviv 8. Indicates near 11. Minneapolis suburb 13. Large Australian flightless bird 14. Fine-grained earth 15. Plant genus that includes water caltrop 16. Peacock network 17. TV writer Dun- ham 18. Excessive fluid accumulation in tissues 20. They __ 21. Muslim ruler title 22. Position given in respect of 25. Explaining further 30. Measuring instrument 31. Romanian mone- tary unit 32. Council of __, l545-1563 33. Savory jelly made with meat stock 38. Journalist Tarbell 41. Most suspenseful 43. Festivity 45. Animal embryos 48. Fertility god 49. Medical patients' choice (abbr.) 50. Type of sword 55. Competition 56. Bird of the cuck- oo family 57. Afflicted in mind or body 59. Engineering organization 60. Beverage recep- tacle 61. Spiritual leader 62. Doctor of Edu- cation 63. Where golfers begin 64. Impudence DOWN 1. Vietnamese offen- sive 2. Fast mammal 3. Oh goodness! 4. The back of one's neck 5. One who lives in another's property 6. Involve deeply 7. Alfalfa 8. Tropical tree resin 9. Sudden fear 10. Jewish religious month 12. Veterans battle- ground 14. Musical symbol 19. German river 23. Paddle 24. Lizard 25. Shock treatment 26. The common gibbon 27. Brew 28. Usually has a lid 29. Lenses in optical instruments 34. Time zone in Samoa (abbr.) 35. Wrinkled dog: Shar __ 36. Denotes equal 37. TV network for children 39. Take the value away from 40. Female graduates 41. Don't know when yet 42. "__ tú": Spanish song 44. "Seinfeld" char- acter 45. Bleated 46. Entwined 47. Away from wind 48. Soft creamy white cheese 51. Swiss river 52. Prejudice 53. Actor Idris 54. They resist au- thority (slang) 58. Speak ill of Answers to this week's crossword puzzle can be found on page 15.

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