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The Valley Breeze Cumberland Lincoln 03-18-2021

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VALLEY BREEZE LIVING EDITION | MARCH 18-24, 2021 AT HOME / ENTERTAINMENT 27 Q: My 5-year-old contin- ues to throw tantrums when he doesn't get his way. His father and I are divorced. I have primary custody. He is with his dad every other weekend, basically. My ex has very poor emotional control and I'm concerned that our son may have inher- ited that from him. When he throws a tantrum, I make him sit in a "tantrum chair" in the living room, some- thing I read about in one of your books. It sometimes takes him nearly an hour to fully calm down. Is there anything else I can do to help him get control of him- self or should I just stay the course? I'm thinking 5 years old is too old for tantrums and that there may be more going on with him than I'm aware of. A: 60-plus years ago, it was "unheard of" for a child older than 36 months to still be throwing tantrums; today, it isn't the norm, but it's not unusual either. The differ- ence is due to sea changes in childrearing practices that have taken place since the 1960s, the two most signifi- cant of which have been (a) a shift from adult to child centeredness in the family and (b) a change in focus from instilling citizenship values to making children happy. As the result of demon- izing (by the media and mental health professional community) and all-but abandoning traditional chil- drearing attitudes and prac- tices, behaviors associated with the so-called "terrible twos" – tantrums, defiance, impulsivity, separation anxi- ety – continue to occur past toddlerhood and sometimes well past. In other words, I doubt there's more going on here than meets the eye. A tendency toward emo- tionality may be heritable to some extent, but even if that is the case, emo- tional control can be taught. Behavioral predispositions are exactly that: predis- positions. Unlike physical characteristics, they aren't written in stone. So, for example, you can't change a child's eye color, but a ten- dency toward shyness can be overcome. For whatever reasons, your son is having great difficulty accepting what I call the Mick Jagger Principle: You can't always get what you want. (For those readers who suffer from deficiencies in rock 'n' roll knowledge, that is the title of a well-known song by the Rolling Stones, Jagger's band.) A "tantrum chair" (or some variation upon it) is my standard rec- ommendation concerning ongoing emotional melt- downs in a child your son's age. The most important element in the equation is that you enforce in keeping with the "Referee's Rule": no warnings, no threats, no second chances, no deals. As soon as a tantrum begins, assign him to the chair. In hesitation, all is not lost, but hesitation when it comes to enforcing rules is almost as counterproductive as not enforcing them at all. This is going to be an uphill battle. Stay the course. Your resolve will eventually pay off. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, When it comes to tantrums, stay the course Traditional Parenting JOHN ROSEMOND Mixed Magic Theatre presents '(RI)se to Black: This Woman's Work' PAWTUCKET – In celebration of Women's History Month, Mixed Magic Theatre's "(RI)se to Black: This Woman's Work" gives voice to Black and Brown women from the past to the present on Friday, March 19, at 7:30 p.m. Women tell their stories through many avenues including song, poetry, dance, monologues, music, spoken word and more. "(RI)se to Black: This Woman's Work" will be broad- cast on Mixed Magic Theatre's YouTube Channel. This production is scheduled to include A Maker's Magic interview segment. The full lineup of performers is posted on the Mixed Magic Theatre website at . 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