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The North Providence Breeze 02-17-2021

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Mr. and Mrs. Brayton celebrate 75 years of marriage FOSTER – George and Dorothy Brayton were set to celebrate their 75th wedding anniversary on Feb. 19. Mr. and Mrs. Brayton were mar- ried on Feb. 19, 1946, at the North Scituate Baptist Church. The Rev. Otto Churchhill officiated the cer- emony. Mrs. Brayton is the former Dorothy Z. Pierce. The couple are the parents of Rebecca Shippee and husband, Warren; Georgianna Knox and hus- band, Donald; George Brayton Jr. and wife, Laurie; Richard Brayton and wife, Gladys; and Donna Brayton. They are the grandparents of Todd Knox, Donald Knox, Scott Knox, Kevin Shippee, Aurthur Shippee, Julie Carnevale, Kimberly Barrette, Robert Edson, James Edson, William Maniatis, Candi Parrillo, Nick Maniatis and Bruce Brinthaupt. They are the great-grandparents of Austin Shippee, Aaron Shippee, Jesse Knox, Brooke Welch, Brandon Knox, Sam Carnevale, Hannah Carnevale, Parker Barrette, Maya Barrette, Ty Parrillo, Cal Parrillo, Nick Raposa, Corey Edson and Kaitlyn Edson. They are the great-great-grand- parents of Isebel Knox and Aiden Welch. Mrs. Brayton is a homemaker and enjoys gardening and bird-watching. Mr. Brayton was a P.O.W. in World War II. He was employed in the milk truck business and as a mailman. friends will attest, I am sometimes not shy to a fault. Looking back, I do not think there is anything my parents could have done to cure my childhood shyness. Both of them were outgoing people, by the way. So much for the sup- posed cause-effect influence of role models. Outgoing can raise shy, and vice versa. My social awkwardness didn't abate until I was forced to make a choice between shyness or being a campus rock star. That's a no- brainer for an 18-year-old. But this column is not really about childhood shyness. It's about the dis- tinction between a child's personality and behavior. Personality can be lik- ened to the stretched canvas surface upon which an artist begins a paint- ing. If the artist doesn't like the way his painting is progressing, he can paint over what he's done, but, mind you, the canvas surface remains as it was at the beginning – a constant. The analogy is meant to illustrate that whereas personality (the canvas surface) doesn't change, behavior (what one puts on top of the surface) can be changed. So, returning to my personal example, I forced myself to overcome shyness, but unbeknownst to even my closest friends, I'm still the same shy person. My behavior has changed, however. Who changed it? Me! Likewise, as research has found, a child comes into the world with a fairly set personality. He's more or less destined to be fundamentally shy or outgoing, patient or impul- sive, introspective or superficial. His behavior, however, can change. Sometimes, behavior change in a child has to be leveraged by people who comprehend its long-term rami- fications. So, an impulsive child can be trained to pay attention and think before he acts, but that is never going to "come naturally." Sometimes, however, behavior change – as in my case – can only be brought about by the child and won't happen until he wants something badly enough. So, going back to shyness, parents sometimes ask me what they can do to cure a child's shyness. My answer is, "The effort is likely to lead to lots of frustration for both you and your child, so I wouldn't recommend it." But a parent who tells me that her child's shyness has manifested in rude behavior? That's different. Rudeness, being behavior, can be corrected and for the child's sake, I definitely recommend it. Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. PARENTING From Page 12 16 CELEBRATIONS / AT HOME FEBRUARY 17-23, 2021 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION answers Do you know someone celebrating a March Birthday? The Valley Breeze Birthday Club for MARCH will be printed on February 25, 2021. Forms should be received by The Valley Breeze by Friday, February 19, 2021. Send in the name of someone with his or her March birth date and $2 per edition and we'll include them in the club. The check should be made payable to The Valley Breeze for use in the Breeze charities fund. Mail to: The Valley Breeze, 6 Blackstone Valley Place, Suite #204, Lincoln, RI 02865. Thank you! Greetings should be 10 words or less. Name: .............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 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