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The Valley Breeze & Observer 07-23-2020

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21 AT HOME JULY 23-29, 2020 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION help." Coincidentally, Paul Dubois, (aka Duke), the for- mer sports editor and writer at The Breeze, had brought in a ridiculously huge zuc- chini from his garden. "So I looked up gluten-free zuc- chini bread and this is the recipe I found," she said. At first it was named "The Loaf of Deliciousness," then it later became known sim- ply as "The Loaf" by her whole family. It has been sent off to college, and shared with friends and fam- ily. "I don't add nuts, but I'm sure it's delicious that way," Lise added. One bit of advice is to not under-cook baked goods being made with gluten-free flour. "For some reason it tends to come out gummy if you do not cook it long enough," Lise said. "If in doubt, I cook it a little lon- ger." Also, it's a good idea to check the ingredients in the gluten-free flour before using it in a recipe as some already have added xantham gum – a natural powder used for binding in a recipe. You do not need to add more if it is in the flour already, Lise said. She buys her Bob's Red Mill brand flour at Job Lot, found in the baking aisle. The one good thing that came out of the gluten- free trial for her was that it showed her a healthier way to eat and the family was onboard. "It changed the way I eat, I buy ancient grains – not wheat flours – it seems to be more easily digested," said Lise. As for the division of chores in the Barnett home, Lise said she does most of the cooking. Ron works long hours in the health insurance business and as an assistant pastor at their church. Planning a staycation this week due to COVID-19, Lise is looking forward to some family time, especially with that new baby grand- daughter. THE LOAF From Page 20 you give me some reassuring words? A: That's not an unreason- able request. Try these: Far as I can tell, you have nothing to worry about. Hold that thought. I'll come back to it in a moment or three. It's a fascinating fact, human beings are the only species that need – or have recently come to thinking they need – specially trained, highly evolved, super-sages like myself to help them navigate the fundamentally simple, non-intellectual pro- cess of raising a child to com- petent adulthood. Since 1970, more than 100,000 books on how to raise children have hit the market. Around 20 were written by yours truly (with more to come). God help me. The irony in all of this is the more the experts have published, the more difficult childrearing has become. A good part of the problem has to do with the inherently progressive nature of the publishing business. To be published, an author must come up with a new idea, a novel approach, some- thing "fresh." It follows that the more parenting books, articles, columns, and so on a parent reads, the more the parent is bombarded with new ideas and approaches, and the more confused and anxious the parent becomes. Too much information! To continue ... and the more confused and anxious the parent becomes, the more the parent reads in a never-ending and vain search for the new idea that will end all new ideas. This craziness is why I have a job. Like I said. Unlike most people of my ilk, however, I am a pro- ponent of the ancient kisaii school of wisdom parenting, kisaii standing for keep-it- simple, as-it-is. In the rais- ing of a child, the simplest approach (unconditional love and an equal measure of unequivocal leadership) and the simplest explanations rule. You, dear mother, are thinking too much. You are indeed blessed! He entertains himself for hours? That's as clear a sign of good develop- ment as any. But, keep in mind, nearly all toddlers are haunted with episodes of kick-out-the-jams insanity. I flunked Diagnosing Across the Miles 101 in grad school, but I can tell you that 2-year-olds – being the nut cases they can become in a heartbeat – are prone to doing things like banging their heads on the floor when they don't get their way. I might be concerned if he was oblivious to hurting himself, but the absence of bruising and the fact that he's still acting normatively in every other respect (he's not acting like a drunk, e.g.) suggests strongly that he knows when to stop. To bring this chapter in his life to a close, draw a chalk circle on the floor in a side room. Tell him his doctor says he can bang his head all he wants, but only inside the circle. If he starts banging, take him to the circle (drag gently), say, "Bang your head here, my love," and walk away. This too will pass. I give it two weeks, tops. See how simple that was? Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. Place your classified ad online at classifieds.valleybreeze.com PARENTING From Page 18 answers Do you know someone celebrating an August Birthday? The Valley Breeze Birthday Club for AUGUST will be printed on July 30, 2020. Forms should be received by The Valley Breeze by Friday, July 23, 2020. Send in the name of someone with his or her August birth date and $2 per edition and we'll include them in the club. The check should be made payable to The Valley Breeze for use in the Breeze charities fund. Mail to: The Valley Breeze, 6 Blackstone Valley Place, Suite #204, Lincoln, RI 02865. Thank you! Greetings should be 10 words or less. Name: .............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. Date of Birth: ............................................................................................................................................ Age: .............................................................................. From: ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ Contact Phone Number (for questions, not publication) ................................................................................................................................................. Edition (please check): Cumberland/Lincoln edition ($2) Pawtucket edition ($2) Observer edition ($2) North Smithfield/Blackstone/Woonsocket edition ($2) North Providence edition ($2)

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