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The Valley Breeze Woonsocket North Smithfield 11-07-2019

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2 AT HOME / ENTERTAINMENT NOVEMBER 7-13, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE LIVING EDITION What to do about stealing Q: Our 7-year-old son recently stole two small model cars from a playmate while he was at the play- mate's house. Apparently, he wanted to trade one of his toys for the two cars, but the playmate refused, so he stole them. When we found them, he claimed his friend had given them to him. We absolutely know that's not true, but it's been over a week and our son refuses to admit to the theft. He's changed his story, then changed it back, so we know he's lying, but still he refuses to budge. Nothing like this has ever happened before and we're at a loss. We called an acquain- tance of ours who's also a therapist. She said that children who steal are often compensating for some inse- curity and that punishing him could make matters worse. We have no idea what insecurity our son is deal- ing with or what to do about the theft and his lies. A: With all due respect for the therapist you consulted, I know of no research that connects childhood stealing with insecurity. Her sug- gestion is purely speculative, as are almost all psychological theories of human behavior. It amounts to what I call a "psychological boogeyman" – an unprovable hypothesis that does nothing but cause parents to think their child's misbehavior is the result of some ongoing parenting sin. The fact is, children are notorious for doing odd, inexplicable things. A random misbehavior is generally the result of a sudden impulse as opposed to some psycho-emotional deficiency. The most brilliantly insightful explanation I've ever come up with for these occasional anti-social impulses is "children are impulsive." Kidding aside, asking a child to explain a lie, theft, or any other sneaky behavior is almost always unproductive. The most likely answer is "I don't know," which is usually the truth. This episode is probably nothing more than a "one-off." The problem is that a drama has now developed around the incident. Such dramas increase the possibility that the mis- behavior in question will happen again. With that in mind, my first recom- mendation to you is that you stop talking to your son about this. Stop asking him to explain himself. Stop pressuring him to admit to what you already know is true. Stop holding mini-seminars on interpersonal eth- ics. Simply tell your son that you know he stole the toys from his friend (at this point, completely ignore any denials) and that until he admits to the theft and apologizes to his friend, he is confined to his room, which you must strip beforehand of any Traditional Parenting JOHN ROSEMOND See PARENTING, Page 9 Children invited to ornament workshop LINCOLN – Children are invited to make an old-fashioned Christmas ornament at the Pullen's Corner Schoolhouse at Chase Farm Park, Great Road, on Sunday, Nov. 10. One-hour workshop sessions will be offered at 1, 2, and 3 p.m. Instruction and materials will be provided to kids to make an orna- ment for the tree to be displayed in the schoolhouse during the holiday festivities taking place in December, as well as a special one to bring home for their own family tree. The cost is $5 per family. Space is limited for each of the workshop ses- sions, so advance registration is sug- gested by calling Hearthside Museum at 401-726-0597 or emailing info@ Music at the Meeting House presents Scott Sanchez GLOCESTER – Internationally acclaimed classical guitarist Scott Sanchez will present "Bach, Beatles, Brubeck, And Beyond" at a Music at the Meeting House concert Sunday, Nov. 10, at 2:30 p.m., at the Chepachet Baptist Church, 1213 Putnam Pike, Route 44. The program will include a wide variety of classical guitar music, from the Baroque era to the present day, featuring works by Bach, Villa Lobos, Scarlatti, Granados, Lennon- McCartney, Brubeck, and others. Sanchez hold a master's degree in music from Yale and teaches guitar at Franklin Pierce University. No admission is charged, but a free will offering will be taken. Refreshments are served afterward, and concert-goers are invited to meet the musician. For updates and further details, visit the church website at . Fall fairs and bazaars Friday-Sunday, Nov. 8-10 St. Theresa Church, 630 Rathbun St., Blackstone, on Saturday, Nov. 9, from 7:30 a.m. to 3 p.m. Handmade crafts, white elephant table, raffles and more. Food will be available for purchase. Angelcat Haven Feline Rescue will hold its 13th annual Holiday Craft Fair on Saturday, Nov. 9, from 10 a.m., to 3 p.m., at the North Attleboro Elk's Lodge, 52 Bulfinch St., North Attleboro, Mass. Local crafters and vendors, raffles, baked goods and other refreshments at the cafe. There is a $1 entrance fee. All proceeds ben- efit rescued cats. St. Theresa Church, 18 Baltic St., Attleboro, Mass., will hold its Christmas in the Village Bazaar, Friday, Nov. 8, from 5:30 to 8:30 p.m.; and Saturday, Nov. 9, from 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Meat raffle, bakery, children's games, raffles, Santa and Mrs. Claus, Grandma's Attic, crafters and more. Arnold Mills United Methodist Church, 690 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland, will host its Holiday Fair Saturday, Nov. 9, from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. Mum's Donuts food truck will be serving fresh donuts and coffee from 7:30 to 10:30 a.m. Lunch will be served starting at 11:30 a.m., featuring Mickey G's clam shack. Homemade stained glass candy, choc- olates, friendship soup mix, fudge, baked beans, peanut brittle, apple pies, an assortment of baked goods and packaged cheese. Knit goods, holiday decorations and ornaments, teacher gifts, pet items and stocking stuffers, timeless treasures room, gar- den shop. Call 401-333-5203. St. Basil the Great Church, 15 Skyview Drive, Lincoln, will hold its Christmas Bazaar on Saturday, Nov. 9, from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m., and Sunday, Nov. 10, from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. The kitchen will be open until 2 p.m. on Sunday, followed by raffles. Features Arabic food and pastry and Syrian string cheese, raffles, penny social, silent auction, Kid's Corner, candy, crafts, jewelry, and more. Our Saviour's Parish, 500 Smithfield Road, Woonsocket, will hold its annual bazaar on Saturday, Nov. 9, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Polish food will be available for eat-in or take-out. A silent auction will include a signed Tom Brady jersey. Also gourmet pastries, children's games, Christmas gifts, and raffles. Wilfrid Manor, 466 Hunt St., Central Falls, will hold its annual bazaar Saturday, Nov. 9, from noon to 4 p.m. Food, games, penny social, basket raffles including a wine basket and more. Woonsocket Health and Rehabilitation Centre, 262 Poplar St., Woonsocket, will hold its annual Harvest Bazaar on Saturday, Nov. 9, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Gift wares, raffles, bake sale, Chinese auction, refreshments, and more. All proceeds to benefit Haven of Grace and the Woonsocket Senior Center. Contributions welcomed and appreci- ated. Call Linda Cesario at 401-765- 2100, ext. 135. Holy Trinity Parish, formerly Our Lady Queen of Martyrs, 1409 Park Ave., Woonsocket, will hold its annual Holiday Bazaar and Craft Fair, Saturday, Nov. 9, from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m., in the Monsignor Gadoury School, 1371 Park Ave., Woonsocket. Vendors and many parish booths including baked goods and fudge. There will also be a gift certificate raffle, split-the-pot, themed baskets and special raffles, activities for chil- dren, photos with Santa. The kitchen will be open for continental breakfast, and lunch will include dynamite sand- wiches. St. John Church, 63 Church St., Slatersville, will hold its 34th annual Winter Wonderland Bazaar and Craft Show, Saturday, Nov. 9, from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. and Sunday, from 9 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. Crafts, raffles, gifts, food, games and more.

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