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The Valley Breeze & Observer 11-07-2019

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6 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME NOVEMBER 6-12, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION ing with or what to do about the theft and his lies. A: With all due respect for the therapist you consulted, I know of no research that connects childhood stealing with insecurity. Her sugges- tion is purely speculative, as are almost all psychological theories of human behavior. It amounts to what I call a "psy- chological boogeyman" – an unprovable hypothesis that does nothing but cause par- ents to think their child's mis- behavior is the result of some ongoing parenting sin. The fact is, children are notorious for doing odd, inex- plicable things. A random misbehavior is generally the result of a sudden impulse as opposed to some psycho-emo- tional deficiency. The most brilliantly insightful explana- tion I've ever come up with for these occasional anti-social impulses is "children are impulsive." Kidding aside, asking a child to explain a lie, theft, or any other sneaky behavior is almost always unproductive. The most likely answer is "I don't know," which is usually the truth. This episode is probably nothing more than a "one- off." The problem is that a drama has now developed around the incident. Such dra- mas increase the possibility that the misbehavior in ques- tion will happen again. With that in mind, my first recommendation to you is that you stop talking to your son about this. Stop asking him to explain himself. Stop pressuring him to admit to what you already know is true. Stop holding mini-semi- nars on interpersonal ethics. Simply tell your son that you know he stole the toys from his friend (at this point, completely ignore any deni- als) and that until he admits to the theft and apologizes to his friend, he is confined to his room, which you must strip beforehand of any "entertain- ment value." He can come out of his room to attend school, church, family meals, do chores, and accompany one or both of you when you leave the home. During his confinement, put him to bed, lights out, immediately after dinner. The purpose is to establish a permanent memo- ry, one that will cause him to think at least twice the next time he wants something that belongs to someone else. If my experience serves me well, he will spill the beans within a week. If he's more than typically stubborn, it might be two. Regardless, this experience will give him a new appreciation for the property rights of others. (And contrary to what a ther- apist might tell you, confining a child this age to a nice but boring room will not leave psychological scars. During the time your son is so con- fined, he will still lead a better life than at least 50 percent of the world's children.) When he admits and apolo- gizes, put the matter to rest. Let him out of his room, restore it to its former glory, and move on. Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. PARENTING From Page One 'Terminator Dark Fate' is a disappointment H The last time the legendary film- maker James Cameron was directly involved with a "Terminator" film was for his sequel to the 1984 clas- sic, "Terminator 2: Judgment Day." The franchise has languished over the last decade or more with three other sequels, each seemingly worse than the last. Now Cameron is back in a producer role and a story credit on an otherwise overfilled script with upward of four responsible writers. That alone should send up flares when five names are attached to the story. The story this time around is not very new either. This "Terminator Dark Fate" is just another example of franchises being run into the ground by multimedia conglomerates that care less about a good storyline than they do profit. In what may be one of the most abhorrent retcons in film, "Dark Fate" elects to go down a very extreme path and in essence nullifies the two original and best films. Thus, moving forward for the remainder of the film, they have reset and re-cast most of the same plot from the original. The evil artificial intelligence sends back a Terminator and the resistance sends back a soldier to attempt to stop the cyborg assassin. This should all sound very familiar as it's almost deja vu- like watching this play out. In this new concoction, the evil Terminator is played by Gabriel Luna and is best quantified as two terminators in one since it's a liquid over a metal frame but both can operate independently from each other. Its prey is Dani Ramos (Natalia Reyes) and the protector sent back to shield her is Grace played by Mackenzie Davis. Grace is mostly human albeit a highly modified one. I don't want to give too much away. When the two seem in ultimate peril, Sarah Connor (Linda Hamilton) shows up to be gruff, brooding and angry. Eventually Arnold Schwarzenegger also reappears but to speak too much about his role would spoil plot points. This is a very mediocre, fast-paced action film but regrettably it doesn't bring anything new to the table. It completely copies the original plot but has now made it more agreeable to a pickier audience especially in regards to casting. Returning alumni Hamilton and Schwarzenegger are great, and the newcomers are great too but sadly the storyline is redundant and tepid and the whole film seems like an excuse to blow things up and destroy stuff through varying degrees of weap- onry. There's very little emotion or humanity here and that's what made the first two films so special. This whole movie plays out like "Skynet" watched the previous five movies and attempted to create its own version. I don't want to imply that Cameron was just offered a dump truck of money to attach himself to this proj- ect; but it has that odor to it. Tim Miller who definitely has an eye for directing action films isn't to blame here; heck, his job of corralling all of this together is applaudable. But sadly, this is just another lame retread and slap in the face of one of the most memorable sci-fi movies ever. Everyone associated with this should be ashamed of themselves for put- ting this out for public consumption. It's really a pity that this gets such a wider release over more original films. The film is rated R. "Terminator: Dark Fate" stars from left, NATALIA REYES, MACKENZIE DAVIS and LINDA HAMILTON. Film Unfiltered TOM BURKE

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