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The North Providence Breeze 09-11-2019

The Valley Breeze Newspapers serving the Northern Rhode Island towns of Cumberland, Lincoln, Woonsocket, Smithfield, North Smithfield, Pawtucket, North Providence, Scituate, Foster, and Glocester

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VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION | SEPTEMBER 11-17, 2019 ENTERTAINMENT / CELEBRATIONS 5 to the effect that co-sleeping is good; Mr. Stern has collected a matching stack to the effect that co-sleeping is a destructive folly. He is right, of course. Yes, there are studies "proving" that kids who co-sleep with their parents are as well- adjusted as kids who sleep in their own beds. So what? First, research in the so-called social sciences proves nothing. Second, if kids who don't co-sleep are as well-adjusted as kids who do, then what is the point of co- sleeping? When all is said and done, the Stern marriage has failed for no good reason at all. Co-sleeping was popularized by the 1976 book "The Family Bed," by Minnesota housewife and com- munity activist Tine Thevenin. Since then, co-sleeping has contributed to countless divorces, including that of actress, author, and noted co-sleeping and attachment parenting advocate Mayim Bialik. From the start, when Thevenin's book came out, I didn't like the idea and began ranting against it in this column. Thevenin pointed out that in cer- tain other cultures, parent-child co- sleeping is the norm. I pointed out that the cultures in question – without exception, aboriginal – were still using stone tools and asked, "What is the sense of 20th century (now 21st, of course) American parents using Stone Age cultural practices as their model for doing anything?" I also pointed out that as the cultures in question move into modernity, parent-child co-sleeping is left behind and quickly forgotten. When a family can afford two bedrooms, the children sleep in one, the parents in the other. The argument for co-sleeping con- sists, entirely, of emotional appeals. One article went so far as to accuse parents who did not co-sleep of aban- doning their kids at bedtime, of inflict- ing upon them a form of psychologi- cal torture. That's odd. Even when my mother was a single parent, I slept alone. It was not torture. It was my preference. Some parents who co-sleep testify that their kids are happy and well- adjusted. OK, but that begs the ques- tion: Are parents who co-sleep able to assess their children's social and emotional adjustment with any degree of objectivity? After all, objectivity requires a non-emotional approach to an issue and if these co-sleepers are anything, they are emotional. After detailing the stress that his wife's co-sleeping has put on their marriage, Mr. Stern seems contrite. He still believes that it is harmful to the child and "bombs the family," but he then says that "had I realized sleeping together as a family surely beats sleeping alone forever, I might have surrendered my position before it was too late." No, Mr. Stern, you should not have surrendered your position. You are right. Your wife is wrong. (Yes, right and wrong do still and will forever exist!) She has responsibilities to the children, but she made a vow, a promise, to you, not them. The chil- dren do not come first. Neither do either of you. Your marriage comes first. It is, in fact, the most important thing in your children's lives, which they won't ever appreciate if you don't pull yourselves back from the brink. It's not too late. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, Mr. and Mrs. Tanzi celebrate 71 years of marriage CRANSTON – Vincent and Helen Tanzi celebrated their 71st anniver- sary on Sept. 6. Mr. and Mrs. Tanzi were mar- ried Sept. 6, 1948, at Sacred Heart Church in Providence. Mrs. Tanzi is the former Helen Cubellis. The couple are the parents of Carol Tanzi of Cranston and Ronald Tanzi of West Warwick. They are the grandparents of Amanda Areson of Smithfield, Stephen Ricci of Scituate and Adam Tanzi of North Providence. Mrs. Tanzi was an international ladies garment worker. She enjoys cooking, baking, sewing and roller skating. Mr. Tanzi was a member of the Teamsters. He enjoys drawing, paint- ing, hunting, fishing, archery, wood- working and riding his motorcycle. ANNIVERSARY PARENTING From Page One JONNY LANG brings his blues rock hits to the Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket, on Saturday, Sept. 14, at 8 p.m. Admission is $37, $47, $57, $67. Tickets are available at the Stadium Theatre Box Office or by calling 401-762- 4545 and online at . Dance event Step This Way is Sunday at Slater Park PAWTUCKET – As part of the 21st annual Pawtucket Arts Festival, the Samaritans of Rhode Island will present the fall festival performance Step This Way on Sunday, Sept. 15, from noon to 2:30 p.m., at Slater Memorial Park, Newport Avenue. The event will feature perfor- mances from various genres includ- ing Latin, African, hip-hop, Cape Verdean, Zumba and visual art forms. Audience participation will be encouraged. The program will be led by salsa performers JJ Latin Dance and Zumba instructors Fatima Khiara and Sonia Andrade and more. The event is free and open to all ages. Visit www.pawtucketartsfesti- . Dining Guide COMEDY NIGHT! Saturday, September 21, 2019 • 9:30 p.m. Presented by The Comedy Factory Special Guest Star, Top Boston Headliner: STEPHANIE PETERS plus: Coleen Galvin, Jason Merrill, John Perrotta & more! $15 per person (show only) For reservations, call 401-334-3200 LINCOLN MALL PLAZA Take-out or Dine-in 334-3200 Open Daily at 11 a.m. Karaoke Thursdays 103 Putnam Pike, Johnston (401) 353-0444 TAKE-OUT AVAILABLE Hours: Mon. & Tues. 6 a.m.-3 p.m.; Wed. & Thurs. 6 a.m.-9 p.m. Friday 6 a.m.-10 p.m.; Saturday 6 a.m.-9 p.m.; Sunday 6 a.m.-3 p.m. 2 for $ 25 Thursdays & Fridays $ 5 OFF $ 50 YOur EntirE FOOd Bill Dinner Only. Excludes alcohol. Cannot be combined with any other offer. Not valid on holidays. Book Your Private Event With us! 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