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The Valley Breeze Cumberland Lincoln 09-05-2019

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6 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME SEPTEMBER 5-11, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE LIVING EDITION second year in a row, the event will include a chalk art competition for children sponsored by Dan Guernon, artist and owner of Dan's Martial Arts Center, with registration for the three age divisions open until 11 a.m. Face painting, balloons and appearances by Paws from the PawSox and Bobo the Clown will round out the family activities. Once referred to as the French Farmers' Market, the festival has evolved to feature local crafters sell- ing handmade goods. Shoppers this year can find wooden crafts, jewelry, goat's milk soap, plants and artwork for sale and learn about the work of local nonprofits as they browse the booths. "We've got 41 vendors and we have more that want to come in, and we don't know if we're going to have room for them," said Marlene Gagnon, treasurer of the NRICA board of directors. The event also includes a trivia contest with questions drawn from the annals of Woonsocket history. The contest, said Gagnon, is always a favorite, a rare occasion when city residents can actually earn prizes for their knowledge of long-closed busi- nesses or forgotten landmarks. At night, festival-goers head to the evening soiree at Holy Trinity Parish Hall, co-sponsored by Catholic Financial Life, where Le Vent des Cantons will entertain with traditional French dance music. Dynamites, beer and wine will be on offer while attendees join in the quadrille, the French square dance. "They tell you all the steps to go by so anyone, even if you don't know to dance it, they show you how to dance it," said Riendeau. The event is one of the longest running from the NRICA, an orga- nization dedicated to keeping the arts, and French culture, alive in Woonsocket. The group also spon- sors the city's annual Mardi Gras celebration and has already begun putting together their Mardi Gras and Quebec-themed float for this year's Autumnfest parade. NRICA members Wally Rathbun and Tammy Irwin chair the daytime event, while Romeo Berthiaume, Paul Collette and Paul Plante chair the evening soiree. The French Heritage Festival runs from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. at River Island Art Park. The evening soiree runs from 5:30 to 8:30 p.m. at Holy Trinity Parish Hall, 1409 Park Ave., Woonsocket. A $10 donation per person for the evening soiree benefits Mardi Gras 2020. Tickets for the Soiree can be pur- chased at the door. They can also be purchased at WOON, WNRI, Bileau's Flowers, Piette's Jewelers, Vose Hardware, Pepin Lumber, Museum of Work & Culture, Timeless Antiques and Club Lafayette. already learning to walk in high heels. "I'm just so sad for my granddaughter," grandma said. "Is there anything I can do to stop this insanity?" What? Kidnap the child and board the next Space-X rocket to Mars? This is a sign of the times. The time has all but gone when parents understood that job one was to train proper character into a child. Today's parents seem to think they are responsible for ensuring that their children accomplish things amazingly awesome enough to brag about at tail- gate parties and barbecues. You may be fairly run-of-the- mill, but by golly, your child is going to be "da bomb." What grandma's daughter- in-law doesn't figure into her plans is that 77,423 mothers (and those fathers who have no man caves in which to hide), at last official count, have the same plans for their kids. Thus, we have college admission cheating scandals because for these folks, the end justifies the means. And that's probably just the tip of the "trophy child" iceberg. It's pitiful, really, parents deriving meaning for their lives from their children's accomplishments. The end result is lives intertwined in perpetual codependency. The children in question have no claim to lives of their own. They're mere actors, following scripts, eventually wondering what their lives would have been like if they'd been allowed to do their own homework and choose their own extracurricular activities. Emancipation is a two-way street. When, for example, our kids left home, my wife and I gained as much free- dom as they. More, actually, because we had money to spare. We looked at one another and asked, "What is this 'empty nest' syndrome we hear so many of our peers bemoaning?" The purpose of our parenting was to get the kids out of the house. How does success at that – kids who leave, who pay their own way, who don't come back (save to visit), who ask for advice on occasion but manage, by trial and error, to figure it out for themselves – translate into a problem? It translates into a problem if, and only if, the parents in question can't stop being par- ents because during the incu- bation, they stopped being husband and wife. Eventually, inevitably, that train will leave the station, which explains the significant increase in the sta- tistical chance of divorce after the last child leaves, which may, in turn, explain why so many children aren't leaving. Along that line, research strongly suggests that the "tro- phy child" is not, in many if not most cases, a happy per- son. A high opinion of oneself correlates with low emotional resilience. People with elevat- ed esteem for their bad selves – an illusion if ever there was one – are more likely than your average Joe or Jolene to experience periodic bouts of clinical depression, proving that what goes up, will come down. One of the most valuable gifts parents can give their children is part-time par- enting. Being the center of someone's attention, unless said person is one's spouse, is a burden that no child should be expected to shoulder. The moral of the story: It's a wonderful thing when a child realizes that he's going to be able to make a better life for himself than his parents are willing to make for him. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, PARENTING From Page One LE VENT DES CANTONS of Canada performs during the 2018 French Heritage Festival at River Island Art Park in Woonsocket. BREEZE PHOTO BY LAUREN CLEM MARLENE GAGNON and MADELEINE RIENDEAU of Woonsocket are two of the Northern Rhode Island Council of the Arts board members behind the French Heritage Festival. HERITAGE From Page One Elise Vetri Keller Williams Leading Edge Cell: 401-651-1138 Elise Vetri Realtor Silver Pines Condominiums, in North Smithfield, RI WE HAVE NEW INVENTORY AVAILABLE! Long Awaited One Level in the premier section of the development. Two Level Townhouse. Both with 2 BR, 2 Baths, 2 Car Garage! Call Elise today for details. 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