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The Valley Breeze & Observer 09-05-2019

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6 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME SEPTEMBER 4-10, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION the second year in a row, the event will include a chalk art competi- tion for children sponsored by Dan Guernon, artist and owner of Dan's Martial Arts Center, with registra- tion for the three age divisions open until 11 a.m. Face painting, balloons and appearances by Paws from the PawSox and Bobo the Clown will round out the family activities. Once referred to as the French Farmers' Market, the festival has evolved to feature local crafters sell- ing handmade goods. Shoppers this year can find wooden crafts, jewelry, goat's milk soap, plants and artwork for sale and learn about the work of local nonprofits as they browse the booths. "We've got 41 vendors and we have more that want to come in, and we don't know if we're going to have room for them," said Marlene Gagnon, treasurer of the NRICA board of directors. The event also includes a trivia contest with questions drawn from the annals of Woonsocket history. The contest, said Gagnon, is always a favorite, a rare occasion when city residents can actually earn prizes for their knowledge of long-closed busi- nesses or forgotten landmarks. At night, festival-goers head to the evening soiree at Holy Trinity Parish Hall, co-sponsored by Catholic Financial Life, where Le Vent des Cantons will entertain with tradition- al French dance music. Dynamites, beer and wine will be on offer while attendees join in the quadrille, the French square dance. "They tell you all the steps to go by so anyone, even if you don't know to dance it, they show you how to dance it," said Riendeau. The event is one of the longest running from the NRICA, an orga- nization dedicated to keeping the arts, and French culture, alive in Woonsocket. The group also spon- sors the city's annual Mardi Gras celebration and has already begun putting together their Mardi Gras and Quebec-themed float for this year's Autumnfest parade. NRICA members Wally Rathbun and Tammy Irwin chair the daytime event, while Romeo Berthiaume, Paul Collette and Paul Plante chair the evening soiree. The French Heritage Festival runs from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. at River Island Art Park. The evening soiree runs from 5:30 to 8:30 p.m. at Holy Trinity Parish Hall, 1409 Park Ave., Woonsocket. A $10 donation per person for the evening soiree ben- efits Mardi Gras 2020. Tickets for the soiree can be purchased at the door. They can also be purchased at WOON, WNRI, Bileau's Flowers, Piette's Jewelers, Vose Hardware, Pepin Lumber, Museum of Work & Culture, Timeless Antiques and Club Lafayette. already learning to walk in high heels. "I'm just so sad for my granddaugh- ter," grandma said. "Is there anything I can do to stop this insanity?" What? Kidnap the child and board the next Space-X rocket to Mars? This is a sign of the times. The time has all but gone when parents understood that job one was to train proper character into a child. Today's parents seem to think they are respon- sible for ensuring that their children accomplish things amazingly awesome enough to brag about at tailgate par- ties and barbecues. You may be fairly run-of-the-mill, but by golly, your child is going to be "da bomb." What grandma's daughter-in-law doesn't figure into her plans is that 77,423 mothers (and those fathers who have no man caves in which to hide), at last official count, have the same plans for their kids. Thus, we have college admission cheating scan- dals because for these folks, the end justifies the means. And that's prob- ably just the tip of the "trophy child" iceberg. It's pitiful, really, parents deriving meaning for their lives from their children's accomplishments. The end result is lives intertwined in perpetual codependency. The children in ques- tion have no claim to lives of their own. They're mere actors, following scripts, eventually wondering what their lives would have been like if they'd been allowed to do their own homework and choose their own extracurricular activities. Emancipation is a two-way street. When, for example, our kids left home, my wife and I gained as much freedom as they. More, actually, because we had money to spare. We looked at one another and asked, "What is this 'empty nest' syndrome we hear so many of our peers bemoaning?" The purpose of our par- enting was to get the kids out of the house. How does success at that – kids who leave, who pay their own way, who don't come back (save to visit), who ask for advice on occasion but manage, by trial and error, to figure it out for themselves – translate into a problem? It translates into a problem if, and only if, the parents in question can't stop being parents because during the incubation, they stopped being hus- band and wife. Eventually, inevitably, that train will leave the station, which explains the significant increase in the statistical chance of divorce after the last child leaves, which may, in turn, explain why so many children aren't leaving. Along that line, research strongly suggests that the "trophy child" is not, in many if not most cases, a happy person. A high opinion of oneself cor- relates with low emotional resilience. People with elevated esteem for their bad selves – an illusion if ever there was one – are more likely than your average Joe or Jolene to experience periodic bouts of clinical depression, proving that what goes up, will come down. One of the most valuable gifts par- ents can give their children is part- time parenting. Being the center of someone's attention, unless said per- son is one's spouse, is a burden that no child should be expected to shoulder. The moral of the story: It's a won- derful thing when a child realizes that he's going to be able to make a better life for himself than his parents are willing to make for him. Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. LE VENT DES CANTONS of Canada performs during the 2018 French Heritage Festival at River Island Art Park in Woonsocket. BREEZE PHOTO BY LAUREN CLEM MARLENE GAGNON and MADELEINE RIENDEAU of Woonsocket are two of the Northern Rhode Island Council of the Arts board members behind the French Heritage Festival. HERITAGE From Page One PARENTING From Page One ACROSS 1. Adventure stories 6. Amphetamines 12. Extend the limits 16. Article 17. Socially disori- ented 18. Gold 19. Part of the mind 20. "Rubber Band Man" rapper 21. Take by force 22. Football position 23. American cola 24. Risk management plans (abbr.) 26. Narrow channel on the moon 28. Semitic alphabet letter 30. Dorm employee 31. Dessert dish 32. A street where nightmares happen 34. For each 35. Fat from a pig 37. Easily altered 39. Salvador __, Spanish artist 40. The last CEO of Sears 41. One who lades 43. Russian pop duo 44. Fictional free city of Essos 45. Cool! 47. Strong liquor 48. Rural delivery 50. Brews 52. Compound found in hops 54. Where golfers begin holes 56. Third note of a major scale 57. City of Angels 59. Snag 60. Exclamation of surprise 61. Controversial re- tired wide receiver 62. For example 63. Free to use 66. Carson's sidekick 67. Pirate saying 70. Convulses 71. Semitic gods DOWN 1. Split apart 2. Equally 3. Mountain passes 4. Another name for Thor 5. Chinese chess piece 6. Helpless 7. US army designa- tion (abbr.) 8. Micturated 9. One to respect 10. Small Greek island 11. In a thinly dis- persed way 12. Put two together 13. Of the supernat- ural 14. Type of structure in organic chem- istry 15. Card game 25. Feeling of dis- comfort 26. Get free of 27. Unit of measure- ment 29. A person who enjoys good food and drink 31. Violin maker 33. Noted psychother- apist 36. Complete 38. Ballplayers' tool 39. Afternoon illumi- nation 41. Points a finger at 42. Moved quickly 43. '__ death do us part 46. Blue jeans 47. French Jesuit theologian 49. Dissuades 51. Eastern European peoples 53. Abnormal rattling sound 54. Air-breathing land snail genus 55. Turfs 58. Farewells 60. __ mater: one's school 64. They __ 65. Baby's eating accessory 68. Priestess of Hera 69. Type of railroad Answers to this week's crossword puzzle can be found on page 10.

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