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The North Providence Breeze 08-07-2019

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6 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME AUGUST 7-13, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION using consequences (albeit the latter is also important). As a rule, today's parents believe in behavior modification. They believe in techniques, such as time out and star charts and approaches of that sort, approaches that involve the manipulation of reward and punishment. Somewhat derisively, I refer to them as "consequence deliv- ery systems." The wrong-headed notion that correct consequences, used cor- rectly, would solve just about any behavior problem became popular- ized in the 1970s. The mental health professional community claimed that rewards and praise – the opera- tive meme was "catch 'em being good" – would strengthen good behavior while punishment and ignoring would weaken bad behav- ior. It all sounded quite simple, utopian even, but we now know, or should, that what works quite reli- ably with rats and dogs does not work nearly as well with human beings. In fact, researchers have found that reward and punishment, when used with children, can be and often are counterproductive, which goes a long way toward explaining why the behavior and discipline of children has become increasingly problem- atic since parents began relying on behavior modification. Alpha speech rests on the simple and historically verified proposition that "a child's natural response to the proper presentation of author- ity is obedience." Before venturing any further, I need to stress that obedience on the part of a child is definitely in the child's best interest. The more obedient the child, the more relaxed and happier the child, which is precisely the opposite of what mental health folks alleged. Alpha speech in four parts: (1) When giving instruction to a child, speak from a fully upright posi- tion, as opposed to the silliness of "getting down to the child's level." (2) Use the fewest words possible. (3) Do not explain yourself, but simply tell the child what you want him to do in a matter-of-fact tone. (4) When a child wants to know "Why?" (which is what children ask in the absence of an explanation), your answer should be "Because I said so" or a variation thereof. For example, if you want a child to put on his coat and wait by the front door, you say, "I want you to put on your coat and wait for me by the front door." You don't say, "I have to go down the street and give a casserole to Miss Gloria and it would really help Mommy if you'd put on your coat because it's chilly out and wait for me by the front door." That approach is likely to draw resistance of one sort or another. Alpha speech is nothing more than saying what you mean and meaning what you say. It is employed by effective leaders, thus the alternate label. It is neither threatening nor promising. Oh, and when the child obeys, it is best to say simply "Thank you" without an exclamation point as opposed to "Good boy! Mommy's going to take her little man to the ice cream store later today!" In discipline, as in decorating, less is usually more. Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. PARENTING From Page One Annual Dragon Boat Races set for Sept. 7 PAWTUCKET – The 20th annual Rhode Island Chinese Dragon Boat Races will be held on Saturday, Sept. 7, from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. All teams must complete the 2019 team roster form online at www.dragonboatri. com/site/team-registration before registering. Each year, the event runs Breast Cancer Charity Supporters races where the winning team gets $1,000 and the pool of $100 entries to donate to the breast cancer charity of their choice. Entries are available online at registration. The R.I. Chinese Dragon Boat Races uses fiberglass Taiwanese-style dragon boats gifted from Taiwan, the Republic of China. Flag-catching and various competitions are in store. BREEZE FILE PHOTO BY BILL MURPHY The PAWTUCKET COUCH DRAGONS, the official team of the city of Pawtucket, makes its way down the Seekonk River during a previous Dragon Boat Races event. This year's Dragon Boat Races and Taiwan Day Festival will be on Saturday, Sept. 7. Papermaking class offered at Powder Mill Ledges SMITHFIELD – Audubon Powder Mill Ledges Wildlife Refuge, 12 Sanderson Road, will offer a recycled papermaking program, for ages teen to adult, on Saturday, Aug. 10, from 10 a.m. to noon. Learn how to fashion decorative paper out of tissue paper, old fibers, and recycled paper. Learn how to embed items such as pressed flowers, threads and glitter to make interest- ing designs. Water is used to suspend the fibers, so dress for mess. The cost is $15/member; $20/non- member. 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