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The Valley Breeze & Observer 07-03-2019

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2 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME JULY 2-9, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION This year's pick is Friends Way, a Warwick-based organization that offers grief counseling at no cost to chil- dren and families. "Even if you think we're crazy, you can come sup- port a worthy charity," said DeCosta, who founded RISEUP, a para- normal investiga- tion team, in 2007. The laidback, family- friendly event will feature 47 celebrities and vendors in an indoor/outdoor festival-style setting, he said. Local artists, crafters, and authors will sell their goods outside the theater, while presentations take place inside. Two food trucks will be available both days, he said. Over the course of two days, there will be approxi- mately 10 presentations as well as panel discussions on demonology and medium- ship, DeCosta said. Presenters include Andrea Perron, of "The Conjuring" fame, Amy Bruni from "Kindred Spirits," Dustin Pari from "Ghost Hunters," Jack Kenna from "Haunted Case Files," Joe Chin from "Ghost Hunters International," Mike Ricksecker from Haunted Roads Media, Shannon Sylvia from "Ghost Hunters International," Tim Weisberg from "Spooky Southcoast" and "Midnight in the Desert," Tiffany Rice, a spirit medium, and more. "The presentations are phenomenal," DeCosta said. "If you have an interest in this and enjoy the (TV) shows, you'll enjoy this event." Perron, who grew up in the house on Round Top Road in Burrillville that serves as the basis for the 2013 film "The Conjuring," has written a three-part book series "House of Darkness, House of Light" about her experiences growing up in the house she says was haunted. She has a three- part movie deal with filming planned for later this year, she said. While Perron has present- ed at paranormal conven- tions all across the country, including at ParaCon for the past six years, she said, "(ParaCon) is the best event of its kind in the coun- try." "I am graced and honored to be a part of it every year. I can't say enough good about Ken DeCosta and his team at RISEUP," she added. This year, her presenta- tion, titled "Childhood Trauma: The Gift That Keeps on Giving," will explore her time in the house from 1970 to 1980 and how it molded her into adulthood. "When you have experi- ences like we did as children it sticks with you for life," said Perron, who currently lives in Winter Garden, Florida. The "most horrific, trau- matic event of (her) child- hood," she says, was a seance that happened in the house; she claims she saw her mother go through "a spiritual attack" in which she was rolled up into a ball and thrown across a room. "What was supernatural became natural," she said. "What was paranormal became normal." Those experiences, she said, "opened me up spiri- tually (and) confirmed my faith in the afterlife and the existence of a higher power." Perron, who will also be promoting her new book "A Wonder to Behold" about extraterrestrial life, said there were a lot of benevo- lent spirits in the house, add- ing she was never physically attacked. She'll also discuss the recent sale of the farmhouse to some folks in the paranor- mal field, she said. Outside the theater, visi- tors can get tarot or psychic readings, or browse stained glass art and handcrafted goods including jewelry. Not everything is necessarily focused on the paranormal, DeCosta said. "You don't have to be a lover or believer in the paranormal to come to this," DeCosta said. "There's something for everyone." Also on Saturday night, ParaCon is teaming up with the Providence Ghost Tour for a private tour of haunted spots on the East Side of the city. Attendees can bring paranormal equipment to use at selected stops along the 90-minute walking tour. The first convention took place in 2012 in the basement of a church and DeCosta said he "never thought it would evolve into what it is now." The convention typi- cally draws between 700 and 1,000 people for the weekend, he said, and has become a destination for people who travel from as far as Italy or Hawaii. "We never really saw that coming," he said. "I think it's a testament to the hard work that the committee puts into this and the support we get from everybody." Tickets for ParaCon cost $12 for adults, $5 for chil- dren under 12, and $20 for a weekend pass. For more information, visit www.riseupparanormal. com . PARACON From Page One PERRON DECOSTA First, what's going on? The short answer is that post- 1960s parenting – informed as it is by bogus psychologi- cal parenting propaganda – leaves many young people inadequately prepared to deal with the challenging realities of life. That objective requires that parents, by and large, expect children to solve problems of their own making (and even a good number of the ones they don't make), say "no" to at least 99 percent of a child's requests for indulgence and entitlement, enroll children in more household chores than after-school activities, and insist, from a relatively early age, upon good emotional control. That's merely the short list. Beginning in the 1960s, people in my field (includ- ing an earlier version of yours truly) told parents that children should be allowed to express their feelings freely lest they "bottle up" their emotions and develop all manner of psychologi- cal malfunctions. The result of this atrocious advice has been children who have no governor on their feelings. To all too many of today's kids, every feeling is a valid state, worthy of expression and deserving of attention. For proof of this, one need only understand that social media has become, for many teens, a stage upon which they perform their personal soap operas, one of which involves the "my life isn't worth living" meme. The second question is, what should parents do? The best advice I can give along that line is: "If and when your child begins talking about suicide, even in a veiled way, make statements as opposed to asking questions." Asking questions is likely to lead parents down one emotional rabbit hole after another. In a situation of this sort, questions have a way of validating the child's feelings. Despite what many therapists will advise, that is not the proper approach. Much bet- ter to make statements, such as: "To be honest, suicide is an inappropriate response to a problem, no matter how big the problem seems at the moment, so let's talk about real solutions rather than dwelling on your feelings," "The problems you are deal- ing with are not unusual and they certainly aren't forever, but suicide is most definitely forever," "You're thinking entirely too much about your- self. Perhaps you need to do some service work, something that will take your mind off the subject of you and your troubles," and "Let's talk about solving these problems, because if you commit sui- cide, they will not be solved. The kids who are picking on you will simply start on someone else because the problem is them, not you." Even, "That's not the intel- ligent response to a problem, any problem, and you are, in fact, an intelligent person. You can tough this out. Let's talk about how." The child in question does not need to be engaged in a personal pity-party that lends authenticity to his/her out-of-control emotions, but rather led to think correctly. Another way of saying this: When a child lacks a gover- nor on his/her thinking and emotions, the child's parents (or some other emotionally competent person) need(s) to step in and be the governor. It's become cliché, but it's truth nonetheless: The most powerful love is tough love. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, PARENTING From Page One

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