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The Valley Breeze & Observer 06-06-2019

The Valley Breeze Newspapers serving the Northern Rhode Island towns of Cumberland, Lincoln, Woonsocket, Smithfield, North Smithfield, Pawtucket, North Providence, Scituate, Foster, and Glocester

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2 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME JUNE 5-11, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION It's glib, I know, and I really need to stop making light of what is a serious problem for these folks. Nonetheless, it's almost always the case that the parents in question are, in fact, enabling. They throw money at problems that aren't caused by a lack of money and money isn't going to solve. I have children. I can't think of anything harder than putting a child out on the street, telling him that the ride is over and he's going to have to learn to solve his own problems. For one thing, the possibility is very real that the kid won't solve his problems, that he'll sink ever deeper into dis- solution. It's one thing to tell par- ents that their enabling has become one of their child's handicaps; it's quite another to answer the question, "But what if he just keeps get- ting worse?" with something other than banalities. There must be no guilt quite as overwhelming, as paralyz- ing, as the guilt that comes from knowing you could have done something to prevent your child's per- sonal apocalypse, even if the something would have been nothing more than the same- old, same-old. Some parents have told me they've tried emancipa- tion counseling. It's certainly worth a try, but the all-too- typical story has everyone agreeing on the plan in front of the counselor and signing the contract only to have the whole thing blow up when push comes to shove. Other parents have told me they finally decided to let the child keep living at home but stop giving him money. That's a fine idea, except a good number of those same parents report that their kids began stealing from them. What do you do then? Swear out a criminal complaint and have your child thrown in jail? Again, easier said than done. The good news is that some of the freeloaders in question suddenly pack their bags, leave, and figure out how to make it on their own (albeit often with an ongoing allowance). In the meantime, however, they've wreaked emotional and financial havoc on their parents. I recently talked with the single mom of a 44-year-old who has done and is con- tinuing to do just that. She's forced, at age 70, to keep working. Which brings me back to kicking the slacker out, which sometimes (the reader should know) involves police. Parents who've done that tell me that the first six months is the hardest because things get worse before they start getting bet- ter. And some parents have told me (the reader should know) that the child in ques- tion simply disappeared. So, when all is said and done, my answer to these questions is one that I have not fallen back on in 40 years of writing this column: I don't know. Life can be very messy at times. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, PARENTING From Page One Skyscrapers meets at Seagrave Observatory SCITUATE – Skyscrapers Inc., the Amateur Astronomical Society of Rhode Island, will hold its monthly meeting on Friday, June 7, at 7 p.m., at Seagrave Memorial Observatory, 47 Peep Toad Road, North Scituate. The topic of the meeting will be "Observing on top of the mountain: Kitt Peak." Ian Dell'Antonio, a pro- fessor of physics at Brown University, has recently returned from Kitt Peak National Observatory in Arizona. He will show the many telescopes on the mountain, introduce the group to the equipment he used, and discuss the research he has been performing. After his talk, the telescopes will be available for observ- ing, if skies are clear. Contact Steve Hubbard at for more information, or visit www. Music at the Farm concert set for Sunday BURRILLVILLE – Grace Note Farm and the Burrillville Land Trust will present a Music at the Farm event featuring a musical tour of 18th century Europe on Sunday, June 9, at 2 p.m., at the farm, 969 Jackson Schoolhouse Road, Pascoag. The concert will feature flutist Virginia Sindelar and harpsichordist Suzanne Cartreine. Tickets are $20 per adult, $10 for students 12 and under, available at the door or online through Free for chil- dren 4 and under. Wright's Dairy opens new on-site scoop shop NORTH SMITHFIELD – Wright's Dairy Farm and Bakery has announced the opening of The Wright Scoop, a new on-site scoop shop that opened June 1. The shop is housed in a vintage trailer on the property at 200 Woonsocket Hill Road and features classic flavors, top- pings and seasonal sundaes. Cathryn Kennedy, a fifth generation Wright's family member, will oversee the scoop shop. All ice cream is made on the property from Wright's Dairy cows. The Wright Scoop will be open Wednesday through Friday from 3 to 9 p.m., Saturdays from noon to 10 p.m. and Sundays from noon to 7 p.m.

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