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The Valley Breeze Woonsocket North Smithfield 05-23-2019

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2 AT HOME / ENTERTAINMENT MAY 23-29, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE LIVING EDITION Serious behavior problems call for 'extreme' measures Concerning major behavior prob- lems, parents often tell me they've "tried everything." In more than 40 years of doing this "parenting expert" gig, I've never run across a parent who was telling the truth about that. Since the 1960s, we've drifted so far away from a com- monsense understanding of the fun- damentals of child discipline that most parents have no concept of what "everything" can and in many cases should involve. A recent conversation with a sin- gle mom illustrates the point. She told me she'd tried "everything" with her disobedient, disrespectful, rebellious 13-year-old daughter. Turns out that "everything" has consisted of sending her to her room (which is full of entertain- ment) until she apologizes (which the girl does when it serves her purposes), berating her (which often causes the child to laugh), and taking away her phone for the remainder of the day (one whole day!). In short, as in most cases, "everything" consists of virtually nothing. I call it "trying to stop a charging elephant with a fly swat- ter." The further problem is that when I suggest pulling out all the stops and actually approximating "everything," the reaction is often palpable reluctance. I can relate to salespeople when they hear, "Well, I'm going to go home and think about it," knowing they'll never see the customer again. Example: I told the above mom that if she didn't stop fooling around with her daughter's mis- behavior, it was only going to get worse. I recommended "kicking her out of the Garden of Eden" – that is, shutting her life down to a bare minimum: no phone, no privileges, no sleepovers, no new clothes (unless of necessity and in that event only what will suffice), no visitors, no nothing. How long? For a month, and if an incident (defined in advance) occurs before the month is over, the month begins anew the next day. "That's fairly, um, well, extreme, isn't it?" Mom stammered. "Not as extreme, by a long shot, as calling you a vile name because you've refused one of her typically outrageous requests, or smoking pot before school, or using her phone to send pictures of her body to her juvenile delinquent boy- friend." Traditional Parenting JOHN ROSEMOND Bikeway Ambassadors and Paddle Club lead experiences throughout the National Heritage Corridor this summer WHITINSVILLE, Mass. – Volunteers of the Blackstone Heritage Corridor Bikeway Ambassadors and the Blackstone Valley Paddle Club will launch their summer season of guided bike rides and paddles throughout the Blackstone River Valley National Heritage Corridor. Group paddles are hosted on Tuesday evenings at 6 p.m. and group bicycle rides are hosted on Wednesday evenings, departing at 6:30 p.m. The first volunteer-led "Ride of Discovery" with the BHC Bikeway Ambassadors is on Wednesday, May 29, in Burrillville, along the Burrillville Bike Path. Special guests as interpretive guides are Betty and Carlo Mencucci with the Burrillville Historical and Preservation Society. Riders will meet at the Jesse M. Smith Memorial Library, 100 Tinkham Lane, Harrisville. A special ride for National Trails Day, Saturday, June 1, will honor a BHC volunteer Dave Barber who leaves behind a legacy of trail advo- cacy. The ride along the Blackstone River Greenway from Blackstone to Uxbridge, Mass., will include an inter- pretive talk at the Millville Lock by canal enthusiast Val Stegemoen. Riders will meet at noon at the Blackstone River Greenway parking area at 93 Canal St., Blackstone. Walkers can meet at the Millville parking lot 44 Hope St., at 1 p.m. for the walking tour of the Millville Lock. The "Rides of Discovery" continue through the summer on Wednesdays at 6:30 p.m. as follows: • June 5, Worcester, Mass., to Millbury, Mass.; meet at BHC Visitor Center at Worcester, 3 Paul Clancy Way. • June 12, Blackstone River Greenway, Uxbridge, Mass. to Blackstone; meet at 1 Adams St., Uxbridge. • June 19, ride with Landry's Bicycle Shop; meet at Landry's Bicycle Shop, 20 Jolma Road, Worcester. • June 26, Woonsocket to Manville with a tour of the newly expand- ed Blackstone River Watershed Council/Friends of the Blackstone Environmental Center. Meet at Rivers Edge parking area, 20 Davison Ave., Woonsocket. • July 10, Manville, to the Capt. Wilbur Kelly House Museum, Lincoln; meet at the Manville parking area, 100 New River Road, Lincoln. • Enjoy a Full Moon bike ride on July 17, departing from the Route 295 Visitor Center, I-295 North, Lincoln and riding to the Lonsdale Marsh, Lincoln. • On July 24, bike from the Lonsdale Marsh to the Slater Mill Historic Site, Pawtucket; meet at the John St. Parking area, 121 John St., Lincoln. • On July 31, meet at the historic Looff Carousel in Slater Park, 825 Armistice Blvd., Pawtucket, to meet up with the Ten Mile River Watershed Council for a guided ride along the Ten Mile River Greenway. Blackstone Heritage Corridor is also hosting a Corridor Chats networking event there starting at 4:30 p.m. and the public is invited to attend. To RSVP for Corridor Chats, email bcombs@ • On Aug. 7, ride along the Blackstone River Greenway from Blackstone to Uxbridge and enjoy interpretation along the way. Meet at the Blackstone River Greenway park- ing area, 93 Canal St., Blackstone. • On Aug. 14, bike from the Slater Mill Historic Site, 67 Roosevelt Ave., Pawtucket to Blackstone Boulevard in Providence, and enjoy a tour through Swan Point Cemetery. • A special Saturday ride has been added on Aug. 17 to bike along the East Bay Bike Path along the coast of Rhode Island. Meet at the Max Read Athletic Field, Pleasant Street, Pawtucket, at 9:30 a.m. • The Wednesday evening rides con- tinue on Aug. 21 for a bike ride along the Woonasquatucket River Greenway from Providence to Johnston. Meet at Riverside Park, 50 Aleppo St., Providence, for a 6:30 p.m. departure. Helmets are required for all bicycle rides. Bring your own bike and hel- met, and rides are weather dependent. Check BHC's website and Facebook page for updates. For full details on each ride, visit BHC's events calen- dar at BlackstoneHeritageCorridor. org. For more info on BHC's Bikeway Ambassadors, contact Suzanne Buchanan at volunteer@ or call 508-234-4242. The Blackstone Valley Paddle Club is launching its 19th season with pad- dles throughout the Blackstone River Valley. Participants must bring their own canoe or kayak, paddles and life jackets. Arrive by 6 p.m. for 6:15 p.m. launch. Tuesday night guided paddle trips: • May 21 with a paddle trip along the West River in Uxbridge, Mass.; meet at gravel lot on West River Road. • On May 28, travel along the Upton, Mass., section of the West River. Parking for access to the river is at the bridge just south of the DPW garage at 100 Pleasant St. • On June 4, explore the Nipmuc River in Burrillville. Meet at 50 Sherman Farm Road. • On June 11, meet at the boat launch at the Rivers Edge Recreation Complex, 20 Davison Ave., Blackstone Heritage Corridor BIKEWAY AMBASSADORS will lead guided bike rides this sum- mer throughout the Blackstone River Valley National Heritage Corridor. 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