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The Valley Breeze & Observer 05-23-2019

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4 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME MAY 22-28, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION entertainment) until she apologizes (which the girl does when it serves her purposes), berating her (which often causes the child to laugh), and taking away her phone for the remainder of the day (one whole day!). In short, as in most cases, "everything" consists of virtually nothing. I call it "trying to stop a charging elephant with a fly swatter." The further problem is that when I suggest pulling out all the stops and actually approximating "every- thing," the reaction is often palpable reluctance. I can relate to salespeople when they hear, "Well, I'm going to go home and think about it," know- ing they'll never see the customer again. Example: I told the above mom that if she didn't stop fooling around with her daughter's misbehavior, it was only going to get worse. I rec- ommended "kicking her out of the Garden of Eden" – that is, shutting her life down to a bare minimum: no phone, no privileges, no sleepovers, no new clothes (unless of necessity and in that event only what will suf- fice), no visitors, no nothing. How long? For a month, and if an incident (defined in advance) occurs before the month is over, the month begins anew the next day. "That's fairly, um, well, extreme, isn't it?" Mom stammered. "Not as extreme, by a long shot, as calling you a vile name because you've refused one of her typically outrageous requests, or smoking pot before school, or using her phone to send pictures of her body to her juve- nile delinquent boyfriend." "What if she runs away?" "Where's she going to go? You'll be able to find out where she is within 24 hours. Go get her and take a policeman along with you. That'll be the end of that." "Won't that pretty much require that I shut my own life down?" "You're going to have to restrict your own activities, for sure, but there's no such thing as an effective consequence that doesn't inconve- nience the person who must enforce it." At that point, I became the above salesperson. She needed to think about it and get back to me, which, needless to say, she never did. The problem is that unlike my par- ents, who grounded me (and rightly so) for the entire summer between high school graduation and going off to college, and parents of that gen- eration, today's parents want to be liked by their kids; therefore, they're afraid of their kids. In 50 years, the parent-child relationship has turned upside-down and kids know it and take advantage of it. To paraphrase one of the inimitable James Brown's more famous num- bers, "It's a Child's, Child's, Child's World." But the children have no idea how much they are losing in the bargain. Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parentguru.com. PARENTING From Page One R.I. Post Card Club will meet Sunday NORTH PROVIDENCE – The Rhode Island Post Card Club, orga- nized on May 25, 1958, celebrates its 61st birthday at its next meeting and sale on Sunday, May 26, from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., at the Knights of Columbus, 15 Bassett St. Post cards of all descriptions includ- ing town views and holiday greetings along with other historical books and paper items will be available for sale. A potluck buffet will be enjoyed at noon. Guests and club members are requested to bring along their favor- ite dish. The meeting and sale is open to the public and there is no admission charge. Kite Flying Day at Watson Farm June 1 JAMESTOWN – Historic New England's Watson Farm at 455 North Road in Jamestown invites everyone to the annual Kite Flying Day on Saturday, June 1, from 1 to 5 p.m. Visitors can bring a kite to Watson Farm and enjoy a day of family fun. During the event, the Jamestown Arts Center will hold a free kite- making workshop at the farm for all ages, including materials, instruc- tions and demonstrations. Stunt kite flyers with Kites Over New England will show off their skills to delight onlookers. Visitors are welcome to walk out to scenic fields where they can launch their own kites, or just watch others enjoy this old-fashioned pastime. They may follow a self-guided tour of the farm trails down to Narragansett Bay and back, see the herds of heritage sheep and cattle, and bring a picnic lunch if they want to spend the after- noon. Registration is not required for this free event at Watson Farm. It takes place rain or shine. No pets are allowed on the farm. Call 401-423- 0005, ext. 3, for more information, or visit www.HistoricNewEngland. org. 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