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The Valley Breeze Woonsocket North Smithfield 03-14-2019

The Valley Breeze Newspapers serving the Northern Rhode Island towns of Cumberland, Lincoln, Woonsocket, Smithfield, North Smithfield, Pawtucket, North Providence, Scituate, Foster, and Glocester

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2 AT HOME MARCH 14-20, 2019 | VALLEY BREEZE LIVING EDITION able to restore it to more or less its previous condition, but I have grown more careful since. You wouldn't think so, but that small difference in size has also messed up my radar when parking. I have had trouble lining the car up to park. I pull in, open the door, look down and realize I am always way too far to the right, so I try again. It gets to be pretty embarrassing when it takes several tries before I can get it right between the lines. And even then, I get out and start walking away only to realize that you could land a plane in front of the car, but the back end is still hanging out in traffic. It's getting better, but it still needs work. In addition to being larger, the new vehicle is also loaded with all manner of bells and whistles, most of which still remain undiscovered, but the first one presented itself as a problem on our first really cold day last fall when the seat warmer automatically went on. I was really liking it a lot. That is, until it reached an uncom- fortable level and I couldn't find the control. That's when I drove right to the dealership in Franklin, Mass., and confessed that I needed a remedial tutorial. "What's the problem?" the young woman at the desk asked, to which I replied, "My seat warmer is cooking my bottom and I don't know how to turn it off." Aha! One tap on this icon and I now have a choice between high, low, and off. The power is mine. Then, there was Christmas Eve when I pulled up to my daughter's front door, all the easier to unload the car, only to discover that the car refused to budge when I later tried to move it. It felt like it wanted to, but just couldn't. I got out to make sure the wheel wasn't wedged up against something. There was nothing in the way, but the car still wouldn't move. That's when I noticed the word "brake" had appeared in red letters on the big screen behind the steer- ing wheel. Now I'm not a new driver and the house doesn't have to fall on me before I catch on. I knew it must mean the emergency brake was on, although I knew I hadn't set it, but although I searched high and low for the pedal or lever to release it, I couldn't find one. I went back in the house and told my son-in-law the problem. He couldn't figure it out either. Other guests were arriving, other guys going out to try to solve the problem, but it wasn't until Jonathan Googled it and discovered that in this particular car there is no pedal or lever. Heck, there's not even an "Emergency Brake," which would explain why I wasn't able to find it in the owner's manual. What I do have is a parking brake (duh!) and it is controlled by an unobtrusive, triangularly shaped little flap on the console with a discrete red "P" printed on it. And no, according to the owner's manual (once I knew where to look), it is not meant to be deployed when the car is in motion (and thus not to be used in a true emergency, like when my brakes had once failed and pulling on the emer- gency brake was all that kept the car from careening down across the back- yard and into the woods). "P" is to be used only when the car is at a full stop, and then its only purpose is to keep the car from rolling should the park gear fail. Finally, I have learned, again only by asking, that although there is an actual key nestled into a slot in the key fob, it cannot be used to start the car in an emergency. I forget what it's really for, but it's obviously nothing critical. One other big difference with the new car involves the color. Between the old car's vibrant blue color and its distinctive style, I couldn't hide any- where. People spotted me wherever I went, and in some cases of mistaken identity, even in places I hadn't been. Not so with this one. I am now anony- mous. Dark red SUVs are plentiful to the point of being almost invisible, and except for trying to find it in parking lots, I find that pretty nice. Rhea Bouchard Powers is a writer from Cumberland. RHEA From Page One What to do about children's eating issues Q: My 5-year-old has had eat- ing issues since he was an infant. When I introduced solid food at 6 months, he began rejecting most vegetables. His feeding problems have worsened since then to the point, today, where he will eat only breaded chicken strips, Tater Tots, and vanilla ice cream (but only a certain brand). We worked with a feeding thera- pist for about six months but made no appreciable progress. She said he has a form of sensory integration disorder, which she explained as his brain is wired such that foods don't taste to him the way they taste to most people. So, even certain sweet foods taste bitter to him, for exam- ple, and he will gag and even throw up at the mere sight of them. In addition, he reacts negatively to cer- tain textures. My mom says I was a picky eater, so he apparently inherit- ed a tendency in this direction from me. I'm grasping at straws here, but do you have any suggestions? A: First, you need to know that there is zero confirmable evidence with which to back up the claims made by the occupational therapist. She cannot prove her contention that the "wiring" between your son's taste buds and his brain is abnormal, nor can she prove he inherited some "tendency" from you (contrary to popular belief, no one has proven that "tendencies" are inherited). What the OT told you is typical of the pseudo-scientific babble dis- pensed by professionals who can't see outside the boundaries of the medical model they were taught in graduate school. My very simple belief is that most if not all childhood behavior "disor- ders" are nothing more than long- standing bad habits. In some cases, it's relatively easy to figure out how these habits developed while in other cases, it's anyone's best guess. At some point in the development of a certain bad habit, the child in question intuits (i.e. he cannot explain his thought process) that the behavior in question – in this case, refusing to eat certain foods – is a means by which he can control other people, cause them to treat him as a special case. Over the course of my career, I've been consulted by dozens of parents about "feeding issues." When par- ents cooperate and follow through as prescribed, my approach has never failed. It's based on the com- monsense notion that children will do what is to their advantage and, conversely, stop doing what is no longer to their advantage. For example, I once had parents tell their preschool-age son that his picky eating (after six months in a feeding therapy program he was eat- ing about five foods) was due to a lack of adequate sleep – that when a child doesn't get enough sleep, taste buds stop working properly and food tastes weird. In other words, I had them begin their son's "therapy" by redefining the problem in terms a young child could understand. The solution became obvious: When he was unable to eat the food put on his plate at the evening meal (one teaspoon portions of what everyone else was eating), it simply meant he needed to catch up on his sleep. In that event, he was excused from the table and went to bed, lights out, curtains drawn. He did not like that, not one bit (pun!). In less than a week, his repertoire of acceptable foods went from five to 15. The last time I checked, he was eating anything his parents put on his plate and usually asking for seconds. Mind you, a few nights of early bedtime "therapy" accom- plished more than six months in a feeding therapy program where he received attention and concern for acting like his tongue and brain weren't properly connected. Common sense trumps pseudo- science once again! Family psychologist John Rosemond:, Traditional Parenting JOHN ROSEMOND Dining Guide Hours: Monday-Thursday 11:30 a.m. - 10 p.m. Friday 11:30 a.m. - 11 p.m. Saturday 11:30 a.m. - 11 p.m. • Sunday 12:30 p.m. - 10 p.m. Steakhouse • Sushi Bar • Lounge 900 Victory Highway, Suite 3, North Smithfield, RI 401-597-0885 St. Patrick's Day Food & ink Specials *Children under 12 choose from the Hibachi menu. One child per adult. Limit 2.Hibachi grill only cannot be combined with any other offer. 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