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The Valley Breeze & Observer 11-28-2018

The Valley Breeze Newspapers serving the Northern Rhode Island towns of Cumberland, Lincoln, Woonsocket, Smithfield, North Smithfield, Pawtucket, North Providence, Scituate, Foster, and Glocester

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VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION | NOVEMBER 28-DECEMBER 4, 2018 AT HOME / ENTERTAINMENT 5 A: I have two suggestions, both of which may seem counterintuitive, but both of which are based on solid research: First, stop talking to your daughter about her attitude toward school and school- work. Research in the field of neuro-linguistics predicts that the more you discuss her dislike of school, trying to get to the bottom of it, the more she will complain of dislik- ing school, and the more convinced she will become that she has valid reasons for not liking school. The same is true, by the way, concern- ing repeated discussions of irrational childhood fears, self-deprecating remarks like "I'm ugly" and "No one likes me," and threats of self-harm. At some point, the proper response is "We've talked about that enough. I've said all I have to say about it. We're not going to talk about it anymore." Talking, however well-intentioned, can transform a random comment (Let's face it, folks, at some point, nearly all children complain of not liking school, being irratio- nally afraid of something, not liking themselves, being unpopular, and so on) into a drama. The value of talking about a problem has been over- blown of late. Talking, like most things that are initially beneficial, carries with it a point of diminishing returns. When that point is reached, talking becomes counterpro- ductive. Having an audience, someone who will listen sympathetically to complaint, is a powerful thing (which is something even some thera- pists fail to understand). Second, stop helping your daughter with her home- work. The latest research – which I review in my book Helping Your Child Succeed in School (2014) –confirms what I've been saying for more than 30 years: to wit, parents who help with home- work run a strong risk of depressing their children's academic performance. According to the research in question, that's true regard- less of a parent's education or the ability level of the child in question. Occasional, time-limited help is fine, but anything more than infrequent, brief homework consultations – as in, sitting with a child while homework is being done – is likely to stimulate complaints of "I can't!" Said another way, the more parents help with homework, the more evidence children give that they need help with their homework. It's that audience thing again. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, Thursday November 29 HOPE ELEMENTARY SCHOOL CHORUS AT THE STATEHOUSE – The state's annual holiday con- cert series featuring Rhode Island students, sponsored by the Rhode Island State Council on the Arts. Free and open to the public. Visit Rhode Island Statehouse, Providence. 9:30 a.m. ARTS & CRAFT CLASS – meets every Thursday morning from 10-11:30 a.m., at the North Providence Mancini Center, 2 Atlantic Blvd., North Providence. Each class is a fresh new project. All participants are required to sign up at reception desk or by calling 401-231-0742. Supplies not included. LADIES NIGHT AT MIDSTATE GUN CO. – Grab a friend and join the Midstate Gun Co, 1200 Tiogue Ave, Coventry, for an informative and fun night out on Nov. 29 from 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m. designed to replace the fear of gun with responsible fun. Tickets are $60 per person to shoot a .22 caliber. Hosted by Generations at Chopmist Hill Inn, space is lim- ited. 5:30 p.m. 1200 Tiogue Ave, Coventry. 401-647-2662. MEDITATION GROUP – meets every Thursday at 6:30 p.m. at the North Providence Union Free Library, 1810 Mineral Spring Ave. Call 401-353-5600. Friday November 30 THE JOHN DENVER TRIBUTE CHRISTMAS SHOW – with Chris Collins and the Boulder Canyon Band. At the Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket, 8 p.m. Tickets $26 and $31. Visit . 8 p.m. GEORGE MCCANN – performs at Chan's, 267 Main St., Woonsocket. Admission is $12 in advance and $15 at the door. Call 401-765- 1900 or visit www.chanseggroll- . 8 p.m. Saturday December 1 JEWELRY SALE – to benefit the Woonsocket Cat Sanctuary, at 266 Mendon Road, Woonsocket. Saturday, 8 a.m.-1 p.m.; and Sunday, 10 a.m.-1 p.m. New and gently used pieces all priced to sell. Call 401-765-4174. BREAKFAST WITH SANTA – Join the North Scituate Fire Department, 201 Danielson Pike, North Scituate, from 8 a.m. to 11 a.m. Breakfast will be followed by pictures with Sanda, holiday- themed crafts and an appearance by Sparky the Fire Dog. Admission is $10 for adults and $6 children under 12-years old. Donations of non-perishable food items will also be accepted. 8 a.m. LITTLE SISTERS TURKEY DROP – is accepting donations of frozen turkeys to fill their refrigera- tors with future meals for their residents at the annual Turkey Drop, from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m., at the Jeanne Jugan Residence, 964 Main Street. For more information Milford Massachusetts' 60-piece CLAFLIN HILL SYMPHONY ORCHESTRA along with the Greater Milford Community Chorus will perform favorite traditional and international holiday songs at the Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket, on Friday, Dec. 7, at 8 p.m. Admission is $26, $31, $36. Tickets are available at the Stadium Theatre Box Office or by calling 401- 762-4545 and online at . PARENTING From Page One See SATURDAY, Page 6 Nancy Casimiro (401) 465-2073 Nancy.Casimiro@NEMOVES.COM Beautiful One Level Condos Bright Open Living Space No Maintenance OPEN HOUSE Saturday 12/1 12 p.m. - 2 p.m. OPEN HOUSE Sunday 1 p.m. - 3 p.m. OPEN HOUSE Sunday 12/2 11 a.m. - 1 p.m. LUXURY MEETS COMFORT BUILD YOUR DREAM HOME OPEN HOUSE Sunday 12/2 1 p.m. - 3 p.m. Building lasting relationships through exceptional service! 500 Mendon Rd. #407, Cumberland, $395,000 26 Peregrine Circle, Attleboro $559,000 40 Old Louisquisset Pike, #1802, N. 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