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The North Providence Breeze 11-07-2018

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6 ENTERTAINMENT / AT HOME NOVEMBER 7-13, 2018 | VALLEY BREEZE & OBSERVER LIVING EDITION the least. I don't particularly rel- ish the taste of some foods but will eat them without complaint if someone else prepares and serves them to me. Does this mean there's a problem with the wiring in a certain part of my brain? No, it means I am considerate. When it comes to consuming certain foods, the setting, not my tongue, dictates whether I eat them or not. When making those decisions, I take other people's feelings into consideration. (And by the way, a couple of my sweaters have itchy collars. I pull them on and force my mis-wired brain to get over it.) Young children are by nature self-centered, mean- ing they rarely, if ever, take other people's feelings into consideration. To a young child, nearly everything is all about "The One and Only Almighty Moi." Furthermore, children are soap-opera fac- tories. It is an act of love for one's neighbors for parents to teach children that their feelings do not rule other people's behavior (beginning with theirs). But many, if not most, of today's parents are not impressing that under- standing on their children. Instead, they regard their children's feelings as valid, meaningful expressions of inner psychological states that they must strive to understand and affirm. In their view, failing to do so may bring on a psychological apocalypse. Ironically, because they try to understand and affirm what is essentially irratio- nal – their children's self- centered and hyperactive emotional expressions – said well-intentioned parents wind up bringing on one psychological apocalypse after another. (For the record, a child's emotional expres- sions are not all irrational… only most.) Because of mental-health propaganda, today's par- ents take this stuff seriously. And so, instead of saying, at the first complaint of itchy clothes or "funny-tasting" food, "You're going to wear/ eat it anyway, end of discus- sion," today's parents begin jumping around like manic marionettes trying to make life perfect for their little dar- lings. This is, after all, what good parenting is all about in the new millennium. The following is axiom- atic: When parents assign credence to every emotion a child puts out there, he will quickly develop what I call "Affective Basket-Case Disorder." He learns, after all, that if he acts like he is having an ABCD episode, his parents will change their behavior and revise their expectations. Under the circumstances, the child suffers because people who are driven by emotion are not happy people. His parents also suffer because living with a person with ABCD – no matter the person's age – is highly stressful. Invariably, the child's parents begin acting like emotional basket- cases, about which they feel significant guilt, thus further overloading their already- overloaded emotional bas- kets. Yep, there's something happening here all right, but I happen to think it's per- fectly clear. Fifty or so years ago, the mental health com- munity persuaded parents that children had a right to express their (mostly irra- tional) feelings freely. It's been an increasingly chaotic downhill ride ever since. Family psychologist John Rosemond:, . PARENTING From Page One doing the right thing for their constituents. Of course, Black will talk about things he just finds funny, "like my favorite newspaper headline of the past 18 months: 'Couple Injured During Church Gun Safety Talk,'" he says. At the end of the show, Black does a segment called "The Rant is Due," which is broadcast live on his website, . "It's the show after the show, broadcast live all over the world. We have viewers in places like Pakistan, Kenya, they just stumble on it. The show is written by the town I'm in." People are invited to enter a rant on Black's website prior to the show. "If it's good enough, I'll read it," he says. Black will be going strong through early December, and will be back on the road January through May. And he will continue his appear- ances on "The Daily Show." "I do that five to six times a year," he said. "I'm still working on that. Maybe it will catch on." See Lewis Black's The Joke's on US Tour at the Providence Performing Arts Center on Nov. 8 at 7:30 p.m. Call 401-421-ARTS or visit for tickets. The tour will be at Boston's Boch Center Shubert Theatre on Friday and Saturday, Nov. 9-10; and at the Shubert Theatre in Connecticut on Sunday, Nov. 11. Visit www.lewisblack. com/shows . LEWIS BLACK From Page One Hearthside House tours and ornament workshop set for Sunday LINCOLN – Hearthside House, 677 Great Road, will host tours on Sunday, Nov. 11, at 1, 2, and 3 p.m. Guests will learn the history of Great Road, Hearthside, and about the families who lived there over the past 200 years from docents dressed in period attire. The fully-guided tour includes three floors of the house. In observance of the 100th anniversary of the end of World War I on Nov. 11, 1918, veterans and current military will receive free admission for this tour being held on Veterans Day. Admission is $10/adults; $8 ages 10-17; free for Hearthside members, veterans and mili- tary with valid ID. To reserve a spot on the tour, email or call 401-726-0597. Also taking place on Sunday afternoon next door at the Pullen's Corner Schoolhouse at Chase Farm Park, also known as the "Hot Potato" School, will be a children's ornament- mak- ing workshop. Children of all ages are invited to make an ornament to decorate the schoolhouse tree for Christmas and bring one home for their family tree. Three one-hour sessions will be held from noon-1 p.m., 1-2 p.m., and 2-3 p.m. Cost is $5/child and includes all materials. Space is limited so advance registration is suggested. Contact info@ or call 401-726-0597. Santa's 'helpers' needed for Polar Express WOONSOCKET – Santa could use your help this Christmas season! Once again, the Blackstone Valley Tourism Council will host the popular Blackstone Valley Polar Express Train Ride and attract as many as 20,000 passengers this sea- son. Volunteers are needed. This three-hour experience is based on the popular children's book "The Polar Express" by noted Rhode Island author Chris Van Allsburg, which was also made into an animated family movie featuring Tom Hanks. The Polar Express travels from the Woonsocket railroad depot on Main Street on weekends beginning Nov. 16 through Dec. 23. The Tourism Council is seeking volunteers for various positions on the train, which include helpers to pass out golden tickets, greet guests, and take photos. Those inter- ested in volunteering should contact Joan Loos at joan@ or call 401-724-2200.

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